There is of course a very good reason why people would be searching for more meaning. Unfortunately the system that should provide these answers (churches and religion) have failed miserably at addressing this issue. Religions of the world are stuck hundreds of years in the past, and the only explanations they can provide seem counter to common sense and as such leave the investigator with more questions than answers.
So, whom could we turn too for clarity? Well of course we can use the experiences of the millions of people who have had near death experiences, and to a lesser degree we can use the adventures of people who experience Out Of Body Experiences - of which I have personally experienced this. We can also use the information acquired from the metaphysical community as this is the direct exploration of everything that is not physical. Much of this information is gathered via communication with the spirit world.
First of all, death is not death. Society has simply taught us the wrong information about what to expect when this experience happens to us. In fact, I do not even like to use that word, as it implys so many wrongful meanings. Crossing over is a much better term that is in fact much closer to the true meaning of crossing over.
In the big picture of life, humans are on an evolutionary path - and I am not referring to the concept of evolution where life evolves. I am speaking to the reality that each human has a soul. This soul experiences the earth plane by incarnating in a human body, to grow up and experience this world of polarity. As I'm sure you have noticed, we live in a world of duality, hot-cold, happy-sad, angry-peaceful. Therefore earth is the classroom of the soul where we eventually learn to live in harmony with (God, Divine Source, Creation).
Through our souls growth we learn many lessons and we experience many lifetimes, in as many different roles. Sometimes we play the victim and sometimes we play the victimizer. Sometimes we are poor, and sometimes we are rich. We evolve our souls, in the same way that we evolve our personalities through education and experience.
Crossing over is simply a graduation of one class. We take our experiences back to the world of spirit where we reflect on our lives and recharge our batteries. Eventually with much assistance we decide when and where we will incarnate into the earth plane again to continue our souls educations. Unless of course the last life lived was a profound life where we came to true understanding of life and God, and we have completed our reincarnation cycles.
As we first cross over into the world of spirit, we will be met by people we may have know for lifetimes. We will be met by relatives who have already crossed over. Our first impressions will be of overwhelming love and acceptance. We will at this point have memories of who we have been before, and we will have instant memory of who all these people are. We will feel that we have arrived at home. This is the case for all who have crossed over into the world of spirit, regardless of how "bad" or "good" they may have been. In the world of spirit, there is no judgment - only observation of how well one did to meet the goals that were selected before birth.
After the greeting there is a time of reflection where each person reviews the entire past life to gain the knowledge of what was done well, and what was done poorly. Still there is no judgment, only reflection. When this period is over, the person then moves into the world of spirit where there is a real world, just like here on earth. There are many things to do, and you may explore and learn about anything you desire to know. You may spend many months here, or you may spend hundreds of earth years here.
There is no sense of time in the world of spirit, as this is a higher dimension. The past, present and even future can be explored if desired. As you interact with other spirits they can assume many shapes, and they usually assume for you the appearance of the person they were the last time you had experience together on earth. Spirits usually manifest themselves in their twenties or thirties when they were physically in prime physical condition. Sometimes a newly arrived spirit will attempt to make communication with physical loved ones, and in some cases do make this communication.
And that is the general nature of crossing over. There are of course a few rare exceptions. If a person lived a very destructive life, and had a very strong belief in heaven and hell, then upon crossing over they may experience a hell type of environment. This experience is not punishment, as there is no punishment. This is simply the result of strong beliefs that set up the transition environment. In time, with help from other spirits this false illusion will dissolve and the person will be shown the true nature of reality.
There are different levels of spirit world, and you may go as high as your spiritual evolution has taken you. If you were a crooked scoundrel in your past lives and have not matured spiritually, then you will be restricted to the lower levels of the spirit world. This is because like attract like which is a physical and spiritual law of nature. This type of person would receive much counseling from spirit type guides who's job is to assist those of a lower nature. And yes, when we cross over we will find all sorts of jobs that we can undertake while in the world of spirit.
So I would say, never fear crossing over. This will be a grand experience that you have done before, and once you are experiencing this again, you will have instant recall of your memories that are not available to us while in the physical body. Embrace your life, and attempt to evolve spiritually. Enjoy life, and enjoy the day when you eventually cross over, one more.